As someone who has dedicated over 25 years to the study of psychology, philosophy, and human interaction, one thing has become clear to me. There is ONE ingredient, and only one, that keeps passion alive in a romantic relationship. Can you guess what that might be? Before you answer, there are a couple of things you may want to consider. First of all, keep in mind that I am talking about Romance, and Passion, not congeniality. There are more than enough examples of couples who stay married for 20, 40, or even 60 years, and who stay together till they die. Buy are they IN LOVE with each other, or stay together out of weakness, convenience, habit, appreciation, or any one of a number of things that THEY CALL love. This bares a similar likeness to the guy who works at the post office or factory for 40 years so he can get the gold watch. Sure it keeps a roof over his families head and food on the table, but hardly what we would call inspiring; unless of course this is his or her dream, and what he or she always wanted to be, do, and have, in his or her life. But I am talking about the rest of us.

In my mind there is a distinct difference between compatibility and passion. I am one of the fortunate few who has seen passion in a marriage that lasted over 60 years. My Grandparents, as disgusting as it may sound, MADE OUT every morning. I'm talking about 80 years old, tongue in mouth - Making Out; aka PASSION. They still had an active sex life, and did so out of enjoyment not obligation...